Hello and welcome back to my blog!
Today I’m joining on on Bookending Spring, an event hosted by Clo @ Book Dragons and Sam @ Fictionally Sam. This seasonal event brings together the book community to talk about all things spring cleaning/organizing—be it your blog, your bookish life, or anything at all. For more info, you can check out Sam’s announcement post.
I’ve had a love-hate relationship with Twitter.com since approximately 2010.
I first discovered it in college as a quick way to keep in touch with friends online in the days when Facebook truly dominated the internet. At first, I enjoyed it as a way to blurt out thoughts quickly, but I never really gained much of a following.
I only re-discovered Twitter later, around 2017, when I first got into book blogging via my former blog, the story salve. I mass-followed a bunch of amazing bookish folks and even became mutuals with a fair few. At this point in my life, I was jobless, so I was able to actually keep up with most of the happenings on Twitter.
The problem is, Twitter doesn’t really work well with my everyday life.
It’s not that I’m any busier than the average person, but I tend to get sucked into things for long periods of time. Every time I used to get sucked into Twitter, it was because I really didn’t have anything more pressing to attend to; now, though, there’s always something more important than scrolling through an endless feed. Maybe this is just my Type A personality guilting me into always being productive…but that’s another post entirely.
Beyond time constraints, Twitter inspires the kind of social anxiety that honestly rarely pops up in my real life.
Even as someone who drinks insane amounts of coffee on a daily basis, I never have enough mental energy to stay up-to-date on my Twitter feed. I suppose I could weed out my following list, but I’m horrified that I’ll unfollow someone and they’ll notice that I unfollowed them (which, yes, I realize is irrational).
On top of that, Twitter is the place I feel like I’ve never quite fit in. Especially when it comes to bookish Twitter, the environment is super cliquish. Sure, I could reply to people’s tweets, but they’d probably think I’m weird for being this invested in their lives. On top of that, I live in horror of saying the wrong thing, of coming across as an asshole (even when my intentions are good). I know that once you’re blacklisted on Twitter, everyone will find out what you said or did, and nobody will ever trust you again.
Add to that the fact that I don’t really know how to Tweet consistently, and the fact that nobody ever seems to see or react to my tweets, and I finally reached the point where I’ve given up on being active on Twitter.
At the same time, I realize that Twitter is perhaps the best possible place to not only promote my blog, but to promote any future books I want to publish.
It seems like everyone who’s anyone in the bookish world has a Twitter account with varying states of activity. I see folks winning chances to have their favorite author as a mentor, folks winning pitch wars, folks making their dreams come true…from Twitter. Accepting that that will never be me means accepting that I may have to fight incredibly hard in other ways to make up for my lack of Twitter presence. As an aspiring author, how am I going to self-promote? How will I convince an agent that I’m a worthy investment?
I don’t have the answers to these questions. All I know is that I can no longer spend so much mental energy trying to be a person that I’m not. I’m not a Twitter person. And I don’t need to give myself endless anxiety just to be part of whatever happens to be trending at the moment.
So I’m going to stick to the parts of social media that I love: commenting on other people’s blogs, following friends on Goodreads, and posting occasionally on Instagram. I have to do what brings me joy, and ditch what doesn’t.
As always, these are my thoughts on Twitter, but I’d love to hear yours! Do you enjoy Twitter? What social media platform do you dread the most? Where is your favorite place to talk about books? Let me know in the comments!