Why I’ve Given Up on Twitter || A BESpring19 Discussion

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Hello and welcome back to my blog!

Today I’m joining on on Bookending Spring, an event hosted by Clo @ Book Dragons and Sam @ Fictionally Sam. This seasonal event brings together the book community to talk about all things spring cleaning/organizing—be it your blog, your bookish life, or anything at all. For more info, you can check out Sam’s announcement post.

Today’s post is brought to you by Charvi @ It’s Not Just Fiction’s prompt: Trying to Control Social Media Chaos. I’m taking my own spin on it and talking about Why I’ve Given Up on Twitter.

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I’ve had a love-hate relationship with Twitter.com since approximately 2010.

I first discovered it in college as a quick way to keep in touch with friends online in the days when Facebook truly dominated the internet. At first, I enjoyed it as a way to blurt out thoughts quickly, but I never really gained much of a following.

I only re-discovered Twitter later, around 2017, when I first got into book blogging via my former blog, the story salve. I mass-followed a bunch of amazing bookish folks and even became mutuals with a fair few. At this point in my life, I was jobless, so I was able to actually keep up with most of the happenings on Twitter.

The problem is, Twitter doesn’t really work well with my everyday life.

It’s not that I’m any busier than the average person, but I tend to get sucked into things for long periods of time. Every time I used to get sucked into Twitter, it was because I really didn’t have anything more pressing to attend to; now, though, there’s always something more important than scrolling through an endless feed. Maybe this is just my Type A personality guilting me into always being productive…but that’s another post entirely.

Beyond time constraints, Twitter inspires the kind of social anxiety that honestly rarely pops up in my real life.

Even as someone who drinks insane amounts of coffee on a daily basis, I never have enough mental energy to stay up-to-date on my Twitter feed. I suppose I could weed out my following list, but I’m horrified that I’ll unfollow someone and they’ll notice that I unfollowed them (which, yes, I realize is irrational).

On top of that, Twitter is the place I feel like I’ve never quite fit in. Especially when it comes to bookish Twitter, the environment is super cliquish. Sure, I could reply to people’s tweets, but they’d probably think I’m weird for being this invested in their lives. On top of that, I live in horror of saying the wrong thing, of coming across as an asshole (even when my intentions are good). I know that once you’re blacklisted on Twitter, everyone will find out what you said or did, and nobody will ever trust you again.

Add to that the fact that I don’t really know how to Tweet consistently, and the fact that nobody ever seems to see or react to my tweets, and I finally reached the point where I’ve given up on being active on Twitter.

At the same time, I realize that Twitter is perhaps the best possible place to not only promote my blog, but to promote any future books I want to publish.

It seems like everyone who’s anyone in the bookish world has a Twitter account with varying states of activity. I see folks winning chances to have their favorite author as a mentor, folks winning pitch wars, folks making their dreams come true…from Twitter. Accepting that that will never be me means accepting that I may have to fight incredibly hard in other ways to make up for my lack of Twitter presence. As an aspiring author, how am I going to self-promote? How will I convince an agent that I’m a worthy investment?

I don’t have the answers to these questions. All I know is that I can no longer spend so much mental energy trying to be a person that I’m not. I’m not a Twitter person. And I don’t need to give myself endless anxiety just to be part of whatever happens to be trending at the moment.

So I’m going to stick to the parts of social media that I love: commenting on other people’s blogs, following friends on Goodreads, and posting occasionally on Instagram. I have to do what brings me joy, and ditch what doesn’t.

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As always, these are my thoughts on Twitter, but I’d love to hear yours! Do you enjoy Twitter? What social media platform do you dread the most? Where is your favorite place to talk about books? Let me know in the comments!

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Author: christine @ lady gets lit

writerperson // bookslinger // depression warrior

11 thoughts on “Why I’ve Given Up on Twitter || A BESpring19 Discussion”

  1. I totally get this! Twitter freaks me out a lot because I also live in fear of saying something that will annoy/offend people. Unfortunately my dayjob is in social media, so I do have to be on it quite a lot. Having said that, if it wasn’t for Twitter, I wouldn’t have met you! ❤

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    1. I knowwww Twitter is just…so necessary for so many things. Ever since I wrote this post I’ve been trying to think of ways I could make it easier on myself, ways I could stay involved that wouldn’t give me so much anxiety…but I haven’t come up with anything yet :/

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  2. Book Twitter is a scary, angry place. You’re right that it’s SO cliquish… and it’s a great place to make relationships and drive numbers, which lures you in unawares. I pop in and out… but mostly out because there is SO much drama and SO much anxiety there. I feel like everyone has been either yelling or apologising there all year and I do not need that in my life. Instagram is safer. Blogs are best. 💜

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    1. YES! It’s all apologizing or yelling all the time on Twitter! Instagram definitely encourages me to compare myself with everyone else, but as long as I can focus on doing my own thing and HAVING FUN then I can usually get past my anxiety. I definitely feel like Instagram is a more positive place to be, too. Mostly people just rave about books they love and encourage the love of reading in each other. Very rarely do I see any drama on Instagram.

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      1. I try not to compare on Instagram but it’s really, really difficult. I still don’t quite understand how people get so many likes?! My best has been 100, but I’m pretty steady at about 34. 😅 Still, The community over there is friendlier for sure.

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      2. I have no idea how people get so many likes either!! I try not to pay attention too much… I just take pictures of my books for fun and enjoy seeing what other people are reading. Honestly I don’t think I’ve ever surpassed 50 likes on a photo, so who knows lol

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  3. It sounds like you’ve really thought this through and are doing what’s best for you. Sounds good! I always applaud that because its not easy to go against the crowd. I’m currently on the fringes on bookish twitter. I love it as a way to communicate with other bloggers as far as blogger love and sharing their posts. I even use it as a way to comment when I can’t get some blogs comment systems to work. Still stick with what works for you! This isn’t something that should add stress to your life. And personally I love Instagram better! Who doesn’t like photos?!

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    1. See, I definitely felt like I was already on the fringes of book twitter…which reminded me of how I felt socially awkward and outcast in high school. Even though I know the book community is full of socially awkward book nerds like me, I still felt like I didn’t really belong. Even though Instagram is more focused on appearances, it’s a much more positive environment, I feel. Thanks for your support and kind words!! ❤

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  4. I love this post so, so much. I feel like, as a book blogger, there are so many things that are… well, almost implied for you to do in some way, like being on twitter, because the community is so active and so, so important there, too, be on bookstagram for the same reason and so on. Yet, we can’t do it all and, most importantly, we can’t all be comfortable with all of these social media either. Twitter is overwhelming and anxiety-inducing for me at times, too, but other times I’m really enjoying being there overall and… well it’s so great to connect with people there at times, too, but the terrifying feeling of saying something wrong is there, too. I think in the end, you should just focus on what’s best for you and what you feel better doing ❤ No matter where you are or choose to be part of the community, I'll always be bothering you with long comments and ramblings hahaha. ❤

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    1. Awwww Marie!! I love your long comments! I think like you said, wherever each individual blogger feels like being is the best place to be. I’m definitely a lot more comfortable lurking in people’s comments than I am on Twitter. I’m even becoming more comfortable on Bookstagram, even though it’s something I never thought I would really be into. For some reason I’m just more comfortable showing my support in these ways, and I’m slowly coming to accept that about myself. It helps so much to know that other people get how I feel and support me anyway. Thank you so much, you sweet human being <3<3<3

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      1. I’m so glad you’re accepting it, it’s so hard to… well, find this peace of mind somehow. There are just so many things to do and places to be and we can’t help wanting to be everywhere all at once, but we should focus on what we like the most 🙂
        Of course, always love your posts ❤

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